Is a negative mindset stopping you achieving the results you’re chasing?
When we don’t see the results we want, like hitting a weight loss goal, it’s all too easy to blame the outcome on external factors…
I didn’t have time to exercise.
It was too tedious to meal plan and eat healthy.
I couldn’t afford to keep working with a Nutritionist, Coach, Personal Trainer.
I was consumed by job stress and didn’t have the bandwidth to focus on anything else.
My family didn’t support me and follow my plan with me, so I couldn’t stick to it.
I’m too far away from my goal, so why bother at all?
And the list of excuses goes on. But, if you do a bit of introspection and reflect on what part YOU may have played in the outcome, you may realise that you – and your misaligned mindset may be to blame for not attaining your goal!
A negative mindset and negative self-talk are both something you’ve likely engaged in, and it’s hard not to let these both slip into your routine from time to time.
But, when they start showing up on the regular, this can lead to self-sabotage, and ultimately stops you from achieving your goals – including those you’ve may have set for your health.
Signs That You’re Sabotaging Yourself
The tell-tale sign that you’re sabotaging yourself is when you seem to stop even trying to achieve your goals, for no apparent reason. You likely still have the desire and ability to do it, but ‘something’ just stops you from going forward.
The common signs of self-sabotage are:
- Chronic procrastination
- Worry, anger, anxiety
- Feelings of worthlessness
- All-or-nothing/black-or-white thinking
- Unfulfilled goals, including those around health
So what if that ‘something’ was your negative mindset or having a mindset that simply doesn’t align with who you really are, and what you want to achieve?
Three (3) Ways To Stop Self-Sabotage In All Areas Of Your Life!
Here are three (3) different actionable ways you can change your inner dialogue, encouraging more positive feelings and healthful behaviours to keep you moving forward in your goals.
“You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.”
~ James Allen, Author
1. Recognise your self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviours.
It all starts with awareness!
SSS (Stop Self-Sabotage) ACTION: Find some quiet time to jot down any thoughts that come to mind about why you feel (or have felt) a negative emotion or have engaged in negative self-talk, especially as it might relate to your health goal.
You may also want to do this work in a space that feels safe, secure and free of judgment – perhaps with a healer, counselor or coach, especially if you’re prone to self-doubt.
After coming up with a list, ask yourself, “Are these any of these thoughts (or the behaviours they lead to) TRUE?”
2. Release negative thoughts and energy.
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase before that “everything is energy”…
SSS ACTION: Instead of hanging onto both other people’s AND your own bad energy – why not release it? Because it simply doesn’t serve you, give yourself permission to relinquish ownership, and allow it to dissipate.
3. Develop self-supporting behaviours and show some compassion – to yourself!
Beating yourself up and putting your health low on the priority list will only serve to keep you stuck in the same old negative patterns.
SSS ACTIONS: The next time you find yourself saying, “It’s too hard to lose weight/get fit/reach my health goal – I”ll never be able to do it.”…
First, recognise that yep, it IS hard to meet many health goals that we set for ourselves!
Then, replace these thoughts and statements with ones about how deserving you are of making your own health a top priority. Something along the lines of, “What is one thing I can do that’s a small step toward taking care of myself?”
Also, taking a moment to reflect on how you would respond to someone who’s going through similar struggles as you, and even writing down your response as a reminder to go easy on yourself more of the time.
Show yourself the same love, compassion and support you would your friends and loved ones.
BONUS SSS ACTION:
“When we label ourselves with statements like ‘I’m an emotional eater,’ you become a self-fulfilling prophecy and will continue the behaviour.
Try dropping the -er and changing it to -ing. For example, instead of ‘I’m an emotional eater,’ change the statement to ‘I’m eating for emotional reasons.’
The emotional eating is a behaviour. It isn’t who you are.”
The bottom line is that letting these negative thoughts and behaviours LIMIT YOU is the real consequence of having a negative mindset, and that slip-ups do not spell failure.
As the saying goes – progress, not perfection! Imperfect action trumps perfect inaction, every single time.
As busy women over 40, its so easy to put everyone else’s needs ahead of our own. Our kids, partner, boss, parents, in laws. The list is never ending.
When will you start prioritising YOU? Taking care of you? Taking care of your health? Nourishing your body instead of depriving it? Moving your body instead of punishing it?
If not now, then when?
It’s never too late to start priortising your health and your self – but why wait?
When will you see yourself as a priority, put yourself at the top of your never ending to do list, and start treating yourself with the self love your deserve?
If not now, then when?